Selected Life Lesson
Someone can hurt you unintentionally -
having only good intent and never be aware of it.
-Vicki W’s Life Lesson from Rowley, Iowa
The world we live in is fast paced … and the world in New York City is even faster. You have not seen power walking until you’ve been on the streets of the city at eight in the morning and everyone is rushing to get their coffees and bagels.
In this past paced world, our words and actions happen fast and often without thought about how they may impact others. We are all sensitive beings and it takes a lot of energy to watch your words and to ensure they don’t hurt someone. But it happens.
When it does, own up to it, apologize, and get better. Relationships are important and learning and understanding someones emotions gives you the freedom to work around them and still get your point across. It is also important to understand that rarely are comments personal.
Keeping those two things in mind, you will become a better and more sensitive person.
One of Seinfeld’s many great contributions to society is their creation of sayings. What sayings you ask? For starters, did we have a formal name for someone who dips a chip, takes a bite and dips again? We do now! How about someone who quietly sides up right next to you, thus taking credit for work they didn’t help with? That would be a “sidler.”
“She’s a two-face.”
So comes my thought for today: Don’t be a two-face.
I was recently attending a corporate meeting on something amazing happened that I am still shaking my head over. In an eight hour meeting, over 1,000 pieces of crisp, fresh white copy paper was used to make copies of reports and year-end data. If the team had been 500 people, that wouldn’t sound so bad. But sadly, the team was less than 20 people. While this is a disappointingly large use (waste) of paper, I probably wouldn’t be writing this is three of the pages in each person’s packet was explaining all the “green” initiatives of the company.
Once that was handed out, I started keep track of all the paper. I was beyond disappointed. You are either green or you’re not. But either way, own it.
Sans from a few major character issues, saying you are one thing and showing you are another is a terrible trait. Not only is it misleading, it is dishonest. Put simply, it can and will hurt you and your business.
I can’t believe I’m saying it, but Costanza had the concept right: Don’t be a two-face.
Selected Life Lesson
Be a good listener!
-Barbara L. from Springfield, Mo.
Last week’s lesson focused on love and how important it is not only to love yourself, but to honestly and completely love others. Pushing just a bit forward with the idea of
love is the concept of listening.
When you completely give of your time to someone, and silently listen (this means shutting off our habit of thinking about dinner and laundry and paying bills), you show not only that you care, but that you love and respect that person. It doesn’t really mean “love” in the general sense of that word, but love because that person has value.
You may be super busy and with spring just around the corner, life is bound to pick up for us all, but we all have time to listen. Has anyone reached out to you recently and you’ve forgotten to call or write them back? Time to get on it. If you’ve been on top of it, great! How can you go even further this week to show love and respect by listening?
Selected Life Lesson
You cannot change or fix people.
-Ferzan J’s life lesson from Iowa City, Iowa
Thank you! You are all amazing and my life is so much better with you all in it.
Next week most of us, in one way or another, will celebrate Thanksgiving. And this year, I personally have a lot to be thankful for, but Ferzan’s lesson has me thinking a little bit differently this year. I am thankful for all of our uniqueness.
We are different in so many ways and this year, I am going to embrace all those differences. I am going to celebrate them. I give thanks for my unique traits and I give thanks for yours!
They make you … you!
Thank you for being you!