Fact: We get what your brains are focused on. Nothing more and sometimes much less.
37Signals recently summarized the infamous Invisible Gorilla study where researchers found that 83 percent of radiologists, in reviewing x-rays of lungs, missed a superimposed image of a gorilla. Why?
Because they weren’t looking for it.
When I lead team building workshops, that lesson is something I drive home in how I give directions and it is a lesson for leaders:
The less you direct in black and white terms,
the more freedom your team has to discover new and great things.
The same is true in life:
The less you focus on one tiny thing, or the end goal,
the more likely you are to find amazing opportunities
and experiences along the way.
Open your eyes, uncloud your path and see what is out there.
In the land of so much noise, we have to pick and choose what messages we actually pay attention to and let into our lives. I have actually become pretty strict with what I let into my life now, and it is a goal of mine here in 2013 to be super-focused.
But it is hard with all the noise that bombards my e-mail inbox and news feed. However, as our world get noisier and noisier, the spammers and junk mail continues to flow in at seemingly faster and faster rates.
I can hardly keep up with it. But one piece of spam I got last week was the last straw for me:
This came to me via Twitter, and I laughed as I read it. I get this message a few times a month and I’m tired of it.
Not because it is annoying (it is). But because it is unoriginal. Seriously. Get creative. Do something to make me click on the link if you’re so desperate.
But this Twitter spam message isn’t the last straw. We all do it. We do the same thing everyone else is doing. We Tweet what we’re eating even when our resolution is to eat healthier. We bitch about politics without understanding policy. And we keep doing it.
I think that is why I don’t post 3-4 times a week, but rather once or twice. I want whatever I create to be original. To be new. Each time I sit down and write, or paint, or sing, or whatever, I want it to be amazing and not boring and over-done. I have one chance in my life to be original and amazing. So do you.
Selected Life Lesson
My husband and I walked into a store we don’t shop in and we were quick to judge this girl — we were both ashamed. She was very sweet and helpful.
-Lori R’s Life Lesson from Des Moines, Iowa
Last week’s lesson was about assuming. How did your reflection on that lesson go?
When we assume, we make decisions that are not based on rational thought and reasoning.
Sure, I recently wrote that I am a proud conservative, but that doesn’t mean that I don’t get along, or encourage friendships and relationships among those who think and view the world differently than myself.
It’s tough to not judge when you have a history built up. But just try it.
People can and often do surprised us.