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Wow, did I have a rough week two weeks ago. It just seems that in life, when it rains, it pours. Or, if you’re in the East Coast like me, when it snows, it snows!

It began on Wednesday on my way into Manhattan. It just felt like everyone wanted to get in my way. Whether it was the person on the subway stairs, or the person on the actual subway, or the person on the subway platform oblivious to the rest of the world, or the person on the sideway who clearly didn’t know the meaning behind ‘walking in a straight line.’

And it continued Wednesday night. And Thursday morning at the gym. And Thursday on the way home.

No matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t get my head back to neutral.

But then a snow storm came. Nemo. And I started to smile again.

It a challenge in this world – New York City especially – to maintain a positive attitude.

No matter the situation, you have to create opportunity. If it is sports, you have to create opportunity to score, or play great defense. If it is in writing, you have to make sure you have time and energy to write. I think hockey great Wayne Gretzky said it best, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you don’t take.” Put in context, you miss 100 percent of the happy moments when you don’t allow yourself to smile and enjoy that moment.

A continuation of creating opportunity, you sometimes just have to breathe. I tried to do that, but it just seemed the harder I tried to create happiness, the more things piled against me. So, on Friday, I came home, opened a bottle of wine and watched television. I didn’t focus on work or my to-do list. I just sat and relaxed. Sometimes that is all you need.

Sometimes you just have to let it go. You can’t control a lot in this life, but you can control you. You can’t control when you will get sick, or when a co-worker is going to drop the ball. You can’t control if you get fired, but you can control your response. And you certainly can’t control other people, but you can control how they impact you.

Happiness is a choice. What are you choosing?