Selected Life Lesson
Follow your gut when it comes to raising your kids and don’t second-guess yourself.
Yosette L’s Life Lesson
Let it be said at the start: I don’t have children. However, we were all once kids, so this lesson is relevant to us all. How? It is quite simple really.
“Following your gut” is said a lot. In fact, a quick Google search resulted in 20,800,000 results to that phrase whereas my name only hits 50,700. Sometimes following your gut can result in falling on your face. But, and I can not stress this enough, if you follow your gut you will never go wrong. In fact, research has shown that our first thought about a decision or situation is usually the best option. It is when we over-think things that often creates bad decisions.
So, if you have been putting off a decision lately, or have one coming up and you already are leaning one way or another, just go for it. Make the decision and move on. That’s my lesson for you.
Selected Life Lesson
You are the only one who can make you happy.
-Lisa B’s Life Lesson from Lee’s Summit, Missouri
Happiness is personal. It is yours. Only you can decide what makes you smile and what makes you come alive. A job can add a ton of value to your life, both financially and through great experiences, but it can not — in my limited opinion — make you happier than you already are.
In the movie Cool Runnings, the coach Irv is talking with his star Derice the night before their final race about winning an Olympic gold medal:
Irv: It’s a fair question. It’s quite simple, really. I had to win. You see, Derice, I had made winning my whole life, and when you make winning your whole life, you have to keep on winning, no matter what. Understand?
Derice: No, I don’t understand. You won two gold medals. You had it all.
Irv: Derice, a gold medal is a wonderful thing. But if you’re not enough without it, you’ll never be enough with it.
You decide what makes you happy. I hope you find it is you, living a life full of passion and love. At least that is my lesson for you.
How many times have we seen blog posts and research data about how to live the fullest life? I’m sure I have even written about it. Hell, my Life To Do List is a testament to making each moment count. But as I was reading Steve Johnson’s Where Good Ideas Come From recently, he referenced a study that got me thinking. He wrote:
“[...] a cow, which is roughly a thousand times heavier than a woodchuck, will, on average, live 5.5 times longer, and have a heart rate that is 5.5 times slower than the woodchuck’s. As the science writer George Johnson once observed, one lovely consequence of Kleiber’s law is that the number of heartbeats per lifetime tends to be stable from species to species. Bigger animals just take longer to use up their quota.”
That’s why I have begun to try to experience new things as often as possible. That is why a few weekends ago I took a tour of a few New York City “landmarks.” Better yet, they were Seinfeld landmarks. I must say, I have had a few burgers here in the city, but the burger from Tom’s Restaurant (Monk’s on Seinfeld) was fantastic. The cheese was melted on the meat and the fried seemed like they were not from a bag.
It is interesting to me that based on Kleiber’s law that on average, all of our hearts beat the same amount of times. So now it is simply a matter of deciding how to use eat one.
Will you spend yours fretting about doing the dishes or making a dream happen? Or course I know you have to do the dishes and you have to take a shower and do your hair. That stuff happens. But think about how much television you watch. Seriously, that is time that could be used on life. On living.
You have a finite amount of heartbeats but how you use them is your choice.
(flicker photo via gfpeck)
Selected Life Lesson
I’d rather be dead than cool.
-Anonymous’ Life Lesson from Olathe, Kansas
Living in New York City, I am definitely not the hippest or most stylish person walking the crowded streets. In fact, I can’t walk a block without seeing a current trend or something even more futuristic. But I like my style.
It works for me and it has taken years and years of work to perfect my style. This week’s lesson is simple in that I didn’t fully appreciate it until I moved here. We are meant to be individuals. One. Just you. Even though I am pretty laid back when it comes to my style — I love a simple pair of jeans and a T-shirt — it is my style and I own it.
The same should be said for you. Be who you are. In so doing you’ll find, is the very essence of cool. You … yes YOU … are cool! You are cool to me! Never forget that. Let someone else know you think they are cool too!