Selected Life Lesson
It’s not what you say about yourself that defines your character. It’s what others say about you.
-Gary A’s Life Lesson from Leavenworth, Kansas
In thinking about Gary’s lesson, I am taken back two weeks to when President George W. Bush dedicated his library. There was a lot of news coverage, and not all of it good. Many writers and reporters took the time to remind the public why they despised the man, five years since he left office.
But then there were others that surprised me. One was Donna Brazile’s column for CNN: Bush came through on Katrina. She writes how the President made her a promise and came through in more ways than one. That is character.
What will others say about you? Whether you are the president or who you are today, your actions matter, but the history is up to others. Make what others say a virtual guarantee.
We make fast decisions. You have already decided whether you are going to read this or not, but I encourage you to read this … why?
Because we all make impressions, but we must work to ensure that the impressions we are making, especially the first ones, are great ones.
READ AND READ SOME MORE
An amazing thing happens when you read: You get smarter. I love reading about history and the human condition. These topics give me all kinds of material for conversation.
Are you always talking? Perhaps it is time to sit back and listen. It is amazing what you can learn from the people around you if you stop talking, and listen. See what people are actually saying between the lines. Perhaps you’ll learn something new.
Nothing aggravates me more than someone who is in love with themselves. How many selfies can you really post on social media? I don’t care how famous you are, I don’t need to see your hustle face every time you post. It is more important to listen.
ADD GREAT CONTENT
And as you learn and listen, then you can start to talk. As you talk (at the right moments), you will have people willing and ready to listen.
It’s all about creating the best content at the right moments.
Be authentic and honest, and above all, be the best you.
In this city that never sleeps, building and sustaining friendships is difficult. Very difficult. Dating is even harder.
Friendships are hard because everyone works until seven or eight in the evening and to get together can take an hour of travel — one way! Relationships are hard for the same reason, and because, and this is especially true if you are in the early phases of dating and getting to know someone, there is this feeling that there is always someone better. In a city of eight million people, it’s a pandemic that can’t be cured.
A friend of mine recently put it all into perspective. She said of her romantic relationships that she needs more “reach” and “impressions.” This, of course, is a play on Facebook’s marketing terms.
She continued: I’m just not putting out enough great content.
She paused, thought a moment, and concluded: Perhaps I need a sponsored story.
In this city, any city, we all need to be putting out great “content” about ourselves, our passions, and our dreams.
I can help. Let me “sponsor” your story. Leave me a comment on what content of your life you’d like to improve.