Focus – on Character

Selected Life Lesson
It’s not what you say about yourself that defines your character. It’s what others say about you.
-Gary A’s Life Lesson from Leavenworth, Kansas

Richard’s Thoughts…
In thinking about Gary’s lesson, I am taken back two weeks to when President George W. Bush dedicated his library. There was a lot of news coverage, and not all of it good. Many writers and reporters took the time to remind the public why they despised the man, five years since he left office.

But then there were others that surprised me. One was Donna Brazile’s column for CNN: Bush came through on Katrina. She writes how the President made her a promise and came through in more ways than one. That is character.

What will others say about you? Whether you are the president or who you are today, your actions matter, but the history is up to others. Make what others say a virtual guarantee.

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Newsletter: Diving In

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Recently, I have been mulling over some pretty heavy life decisions. They are rarely fun, but provide an opportunity to examine the next steps in my life; where I want to go, where I want to end up, and what kinds of experiences do I want to have along the way?

Perhaps it is the 30-year life crisis (I’m only half joking), or perhaps it is this city that makes me itch for more, but I’m developing the plan as I write this newsletter.

I can’t show my cards just yet, but something is coming. I’ve been speaking to a lot of friends and advisers and I have decided that it is time for me to go all-in and figure out which avenue I want in my life.

Diving in

The first piece of that puzzle is all about fear. Prior to moving the New York City, I was giving a lot of speeches and presenting a lot of workshops. But when I moved, I stopped developing that business and the calls stopped coming in. That ends now.

Sure, I’m afraid that the phone won’t ring again, but I know I have something to say. So, I’m diving in. Head first.

But before I, or anyone, can embrace life and go after tough goals, we must be completely open. We have to look fear in the face.

What am I afraid of?

FAILING
Yeah, this one is no fun. But sometimes “failing” leads to something new and unexpected. Just think about scientists who are looking for a solution to problem “x” and stumble upon something even better.

The perfect example of this scenario is the discovery of penicillin by scientist Alexander Fleming in 1928; by accident. His discovery changed the course of medicine around the globe. And he “failed” in his original mission.

FALLING SHORT
I love watching the Olympics. There is great competition and great stories to get lost in for 16 days. Last year in London, one of my favorite athletes, Matthew Mitcham was in London to defend his 10M diving gold medal.

Prior to the Games, he battled drugs and injuries, but he made there. Sadly, Mitcham did not make it to the finals, and he fell short. But after the Games, he shared his story and described the feeling of not defending his gold, vowing to return. Losing rekindled his passion.

These are the reasons I am diving in. I’m either going to make it or not. But it’s a journey worth taking.

Newsletter: Creating Create Impressions

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We make fast decisions. You have already decided whether you are going to read this or not, but I encourage you to read this … why?

Because we all make impressions, but we must work to ensure that the impressions we are making, especially the first ones, are great ones.

READ AND READ SOME MORE

An amazing thing happens when you read: You get smarter. I love reading about history and the human condition. These topics give me all kinds of material for conversation.

LISTEN

Are you always talking? Perhaps it is time to sit back and listen. It is amazing what you can learn from the people around you if you stop talking, and listen. See what people are actually saying between the lines. Perhaps you’ll learn something new.

LISTEN MORE

Nothing aggravates me more than someone who is in love with themselves. How many selfies can you really post on social media? I don’t care how famous you are, I don’t need to see your hustle face every time you post. It is more important to listen.

ADD GREAT CONTENT

And as you learn and listen, then you can start to talk. As you talk (at the right moments), you will have people willing and ready to listen.

It’s all about creating the best content at the right moments.

Be authentic and honest, and above all, be the best you.

A Sponsored Story on Life

In this city that never sleeps, building and sustaining friendships is difficult. Very difficult. Dating is even harder.

Friendships are hard because everyone works until seven or eight in the evening and to get together can take an hour of travel — one way! Relationships are hard for the same reason, and because, and this is especially true if you are in the early phases of dating and getting to know someone, there is this feeling that there is always someone better. In a city of eight million people, it’s a pandemic that can’t be cured.

A friend of mine recently put it all into perspective. She said of her romantic relationships that she needs more “reach” and “impressions.” This, of course, is a play on Facebook’s marketing terms.

She continued: I’m just not putting out enough great content.

She paused, thought a moment, and concluded: Perhaps I need a sponsored story.

In this city, any city, we all need to be putting out great “content” about ourselves, our passions, and our dreams.

I can help. Let me “sponsor” your story. Leave me a comment on what content of your life you’d like to improve.

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