Focus Your Life

Focus on Working Together

Life Lesson Of The Week
Learn to work together. We can accomplish more together than we can alone.
-Anonymous’ Life Lesson

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The world is better when we are working together. Our teams are better when we work together. Our relationships are better when we work together.

A lot of things go together with working together … like listening, friendship, kindness, and compassion.

But in the end, we are stronger together than apart. Make that part of your 2014 resolution — to work together.

Focus on the Power of Choice

Life Lesson Of The Week
Don’t impose your own expectations on your children. Support theirs and help them live up to their own potential.
-Kynn M’s Life Lesson from Cape Girardeau, Mo.

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Growing up, I was pressured from multiple people — family included — to join the clergy. I did consider it, but in the end, it was not for me.

A friend of mine comes from a family of doctors, and while he went to med school, his brother and sister did not want to follow. I know it was tough for their parents but in the end, everyone turned out happy and successful and in the right fields for them.

It’s important to remember this lesson for not only your kids, but your friends and extended family. Life is meant to be lived, so live it and don’t question it.

Focus on Living in the Moment

Life Lesson Of The Week
Live life for the moment; not for the past or the future because things aren’t always guaranteed.
-Kimberly S’ Life Lesson from Cedar Rapids, Iowa

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So much has been happening in New York City and the world, it was nice to relax a few weeks ago in Colorado for Thanksgiving. Time away from our day-to-day lives can often provide needed clarity into our lives that is hard to come by when you’re in the trenches.

Yesterday I wanted to achieve a great dream and I never knew if it would ever come true. After years of tireless effort, the time had come to make a major life decision.

Last week I announced my “retirement” from that dream. I am living in the moment and anything is possible!

Focus on This Moment

Life Lesson Of The Week
Don’t be afraid of the future. This very moment was once the future, and you’re doing just fine.
-Tony M’s Life Lesson from Mason City, Iowa

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In Proust Was a Neuroscientist, we find that “every limit is an beginning as well as a ending.” Two weeks ago, the lesson was all about living your passion.

Tony is right to say that we shouldn’t be afraid of the future. The future is littered with possibilities and we must be willing to enjoy the journey towards that unknown.

You are doing just fine.

Focus on Your Passion

Life Lesson Of The Week
When applying to colleges, make sure you are passionate about the school and not just applying to see if you might get in.
-Michelle’s Life Lesson from Kansas City, Mo.

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This lesson is not just about colleges … it is about something bigger. It is about life. Aside from life being super-complicated, the thing we always have to remember is that we are in control. We are in control of our attitudes and our feelings and what we do with our lives.

When I chose my college major I went back and forth on what I wanted to study. For years prior to even going to college I was worried about how each and every decision would impact my ability to have a successful life. But then I went to college, had a great experience and life happened.

Whether it is college, your first job, or your significant other, the only thing that matters in this life that you should always be focused on is the simple question: am I passionate about this? If not, there is your answer.

Focus on Who You Are

Life Lesson Of The Week
Stand your ground, be true to yourself, be yourself!
-Anita D’s Life Lesson from Watkins, Iowa

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In picking Anita’s lesson for this focus, I did not want this to come off as a violent lesson. The concept of “standing your ground” can appear as a physical stance, but it doesn’t have to. Life is about standing up for who you are, your beliefs, your dreams, and your personality. For so long, I hid my personality, and then someone very special entered my life to bring me out of my nearly 30-year-old shell.

I love to have fun. I love to laugh. I love to relax. And I love to work hard.

When I need time to focus, I make it happen. When I want to fight for my political beliefs, I do. And when I want to laugh, I laugh. The only person you can be is yourself.

Focus on the positives

Life Lesson Of The Week
Don’t hang on to the bad things that happen in life. Remember the good things that came out of bad experiences.
-Jackie K’s Life Lesson from Cedar Rapids, Iowa

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We all have bad experiences we wish we could just Men in Black erase from our memories. But unfortunately, we can’t. We must live with our choices.

Once you accept that to be true, you will find liberation. In my 20′s (which are rapidly coming to an end), I made some choices that many people questioned, but I stood by them. I still do. With the benefit of hindsight, I was wrong.

But I learned from each individual experience and that is the glory of living life. We get the chance to learn, grow, and get better. Are you listening for your lesson?


Focus on making it happen

Life Lesson Of The Week
I went back to school and got my degree as a non-traditional student. I did it when I didn’t think I could!
-Linda M’s Life Lesson from Garden City, Kansas

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Along with Linda, I am going “back to school” this month. As an avid politico, I found a class at the online school Coursera called “The Kennedy Half Century” taught by the well known and respected Larry J. Sabato, and I had to sign up.

It has been a long time since I have been in school, but I am excited. I’m excited to be in a structured learning environment, even if I’m not getting school credit for it. It’s about the learning and what may come of it.

No matter if you just graduated, never graduated, or graduated a decade ago, you can go back to school. Remember, learning never ends so you might as well embrace it!


Focus on yourself

Life Lesson Of The Week
Be yourself.
-Cheryl V’s Life Lesson from Manchester, Iowa

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The best person you can ever be … is yourself.

You can’t be John Grisham. You can’t be Picasso. You can’t be Bon Jovi. You can only and ever be you.

And you are a beautiful person. Be you and be proud.

Focus on opportunities

Life Lesson Of The Week
When one door closes another opens.
-Linda G’s Life Lesson from Kansas City, Mo.

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It has been 987 days since I moved to New York City from the safe fields of Kansas City. In those 987 days, much has happened.

I have been firedI have played at the US OpenI have written another book. But through it all, it feels like I am getting closer to “graduation.” I’ve worked my ass off to get something and after speaking with my friend Kade a few week ago, I am coming to terms — and peace — with the reality that my “dream” may not become a reality. It is beginning to sink in and it sucks. I’m starting to really feel it.

But in this sadness can come joy. I am beginning to ask the question: What’s next?