Newsletter: Determine Your Path

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What possesses someone to do something hard? I find that to be an interesting question. Is it the desire to be the best? Or perhaps it is the desire to simply take on a challenge and do something amazing that either they or no one though was possible.

Whatever it is that drives to take on tough challenges, we do it. And we do it a lot. We decide to write a book. And write another. Oh, and write another. Sometimes we even decide to run for office … as a teenager!

We, Americans, have something in our blood to make us want to reach for the stars. We want to win the Super Bowl and go to Disney World. We want to go to the moon. We want to become President of the United States. We are told to dream big and aim for the moon.

It is in our DNA to work hard and try to make something of ourselves. People have the same attitude as startups possess. We bootstrap. We do what it takes to build a life; to go after our dreams. It certainly does not deter us that only 41 different men have become Super Bowl MVP. And only 12 men have stepped foot on the moon. Nor does it deter us that only 43 people, all men, have taken the Presidential Oath.

To my women readers, I chose those three successes to make a point: you have to be extra determined to crack the glass of this ceiling. As a male, I don’t know how real any of it is anymore, and that is really not the point today.

The point is to remind you that for anything you really want in life, it needs to remain at the center of everything you do and everything you dream. You have to have that determination to put your heart and soul into something even if no one in your life is supportive of your endeavor. That is determination.

It is lacing up your shoes to go running on a track with three inches of snow on in the blistering cold. It’s like the US Post Office’s motto:

Neither snow nor rain nor heat nor gloom of night stays these couriers from the swift completion of their appointed rounds.

Determination is all about going, going hard and not stopping.

In 25 days, I will lace up my shoes for the longest run and greatest physical challenge of my life. I will cross that finish line. I am determined to be the first person in my family to accomplish this feet. But mostly, I am doing it for me. To prove that I can. To prove that having dedication towards a goal that even a year ago seemed impossible. And then to show the world that someone who was never a runner, hated running, and has an injured foot, can accomplish 26.2 unholy miles.

It is time to take your idea, determine you want it and let no one stop you!

You Have a New E-Mail, Sigh

We all get a lot of email. Just take a look at the stats below.

This chart shows when I get my emails and when I send my emails. First, let’s take a look at when I get them. I usually try to go to bed with as close to zero e-mails that need action. Some days are better than others, but by the time I wake up at 7 a.m., my inbox is already full again. And it continues to get worse throughout the day. I like to take care of e-mails by 10 a.m., try to keep up throughout the day and then close it out by midnight.

This is the first month I’ve been able to get these amazing stats and I can promise you, my habits are going to change. I have already unsubscribed to one e-mail list which will hardly create a dent, but it is needed. 1747 emails over 30 days? Really? That amounts to an average of 58 e-mails a day. Now, I know that is nothing compared to some major players, but that is still quite a bit.

I have written a lot about e-mail management in the past and it is still something I am super passionate about.I am always trying to come up with a better system, a new time to check and respond. I’m not sure there is a perfect one out there, but I am willing to try and find it.

How do you control (or try to control) your inbox?

Leaders Leading Change

*This is a guest post from Jenny Redding.

When asked to think of a leader in your life, you will probably automatically think of a person for whom you have some level respect. Someone who played a part in your life in either a personal context or a work relationship and who has made things better by being a part of your life. You may not have always liked the person and at the time possibly didn’t even respect them but now in hindsight, the respect has been earned.

Leadership in Community

One thing any community needs, be it a work environment, or another arena in life, is a leader of some description. It could be someone who directs and decides in a dictatorial way, or one who is more laissez-faire and relaxed, some form of guidance and order is required. It might just mean a gatekeeper who can exert authority if needed when things like social or organizational rules are brought into question, or it might be a more closely managed relationship of traditional ‘power’. How much management the community needs depends largely on the types of people who make up the community, the goals of the community, what they need in order to succeed, and the personality traits of the leader themselves.

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Leading in the World of Work

If you consider the world of work, you will find more stringent leaders, usually with a number of game plans or agendas. Adherence to rules is more important because non-adherence to them can have far reaching consequences. The world of leadership in work can be a highly political business and leaders are strategically positioned with this consideration in mind. But there are also leaders who come in to push the rules and the status quos. Those leaders believe the rules and habits of the past inhibit the ability to be creative and innovative.

Why is a leader in the workplace so important to success? Well essentially because a team of people needs someone to steer them and make decisions, back workers up and ultimately to take responsibility for outcomes. An accountable party, whose head ultimately could roll in the event of an error of judgment or simply a mistake.

Some leaders from as early as their childhood display their leadership qualities and natural style for taking charge and making themselves heard. The ability to be a great leader is often a natural trait. However it can also be as much to do with nature as with nurture; as such the age old ‘chicken and egg’ debate can be applied. In formative years, being a part of a family of strong characters helps to groom the way that person will be shaped and approach situations. From the sports team situations to interviews and workplace teams, these leaders will revert to natural type and actually be selected as the leader, often by the very team they are to lead. Teams know that they need a leader and part of their survival and success will depend on the selection of the right leader.

It is also possible to teach leadership to people as long as there is a desire at some level to be a leader. Leading a team and managing people is certainly not for everyone and some managers are clearly in the wrong role when you see their style of (not) managing and (not) leading. There has to be some degree of natural confidence and intelligence, knowledge of the field and appropriate personable style. Training sessions can help to develop hidden leadership skills and teach people how to make the most of their qualities to lead with success. These types of people however are unlikely to ever make President!

President Obama

The charismatic leader is the type which steers large organizations and even countries which are, after all, communities on a vastly increased scale. Barack Obama, the 44th US President is a current example. He is charismatic, he is personable, he is intelligent. He knows what he has to get done and has a vision of how he will achieve it. He knows how to get there, using the resources available to him and he reviews his successes and progress.

There are realistically only so many Obamas in the world, but whatever your organization is, be it a grocery store, a broker specializing in limo insurance, a lawyer or a stock exchange broker, your organization deserves direction and support to steer them to be the best they could possibly be, and that falls to their leader.

Jim Collins, Psychology of Leaders

According to Jim Collins, an eminent Business Consultant, there is a pinnacle of leadership attained by only a select few people. He calls these Level Five Leaders in his book ‘Good To Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap….and Others Don’t (2001). Think of the type of leader who is all about ‘the cause’ rather than themselves; it is all about the organization for them. They live, breathe, and would probably die for their team and commonly this is at the cost of everything else in the life.

Collins asserts that “Those who build great organizations make sure they have the right people on the bus, the wrong people off the bus, and the right people in the key seats before they figure out where to drive the bus. They always think first about “who” and then about what.”

Collecting the team together, working together to create synergy and shared vision and being an inspiring leader is how the successful leader thrives. They are humble, well versed in the goals of the team and respected. Ultimately they collaborate to shape the future and success, for which everyone in the team reaps the rewards.

Review: Paid to Speak

On the advice of my friend Sam Davidson, I recently picked up Paid To Speak, a book compiled by the National Speakers Association. It was a pretty decent read and for anyone looking to perfect their business and their story-telling abilities, I do recommend this book.


For me, the best part of the book was the detail behind what is called, The Hero’s Journey. What is it? We’ve all heard of it and Joseph Campbell made the concept famous but it is quite simple: The Hero’s Journey is something we can all connect with and believe in. The story itself requires a want, a goal or a desire. Then there must be an obstacle with a resolution. Finally, the journey ends with a piece of wisdom.

A lot of the lessons in this book I have already learned by my time on the road.

  • “Use your first two minutes wisely: your first words, your first story, your first slide should serve only one purpose: to help the audience confirm you are worth listening to. Throw something substantial to the audience for them to chow on rather than the mundane details of your flight, the city, a joke, or a thanking of this or that person.”
  • “When you finish a story, always extract the key point (the hook), and turn it back to your audience (the hinge) by asking a variation of a “you” question such as, “where have you encountered this?”

For me, therein lies the two most important pieces that I learned from the book.

Sure, there were tips of growing your network, elevator speeches, and the like. But to be a great speaker, you have to do those two things really well (in my opinion).

And so, my journey continues

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