Rafael Nadal just made it to 7th Heaven. By winning his seventh Roland Garros title, he now stands at 11 grand slams, and the most men’s French titles ever.
Selected Life Lesson
Change your perception of the view.
-Kelli’s Life Lesson from Des Moines, Iowa
I’m sure you’re all bored with hearing about the marathon, but I still can’t believe it. I, Richard Dedor, ran a freaking marathon! I just wrote about the whole experience and made my re-cap video that you should check out!
For me, running a marathon was practically an eight year journey of, ‘I think I can … I think I can…’ And it came down to just doing it. I wasn’t 100 percent positive that I could do it; even after all the training.
But through it all, I kept my eyes focused on the goal. My view had to change from this notion that I could not possibly run a marathon to one that I definitely could. The moment I changed that view was the moment it became inevitable that I would succeed. What view do you need to change?
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A few weeks ago, Facebook had their much-touted IPO. For the record, I did not buy in … yet. I was not ready to be that vulnerable. Life is just like the stock market too. We have peaks and valleys, good years and bad years. The past 12 months have probably been one of the biggest roller-coaster I have ever experience.
I was recently fired. Yes, you read that right. It’s been a crazy month since then. But what I found when I finally told my friends three weeks later, was how common it has been in the lives of my friends. Many people said they too had been fired once before.
When I uprooted my life from the Midwest to New York City, I knew there would be risks. And sure, there were high points. I tried out to be a US Open Ball Person. That was and will remain quite the experience! Then I went to the US Open and watched how much work it actually was … quietly thankful I did not get chosen!
“I know that vulnerability is kind of the core of shame and fear
and our struggle for worthiness, but it appears that it’s also the
birthplace of joy of creativity of belonging of love.”
Brene Brown (TED Speech)
A recent study by McAfee was reported on the Manufacturing Business Technology that said that nearly 25% of companies were vulnerable to data breaches. It got me thinking about us and our lives.
A Life Data Breach
How many times have you checked your e-mail today? Think about it. I’m just as guilty. I’m still trying to figure out how to manage my day now that I work from home.
Life is where we are vulnerable. It is where we can lose control if – for just one second – we take our eyes off the ball. When you don’t control the time in your life, you leave yourself open for attack.
Ernst & Young recently released their Productivity Pulse survey which was created from 1200 New Zealand participants, and it showed that up to 21% of employees’ days are wasted. The biggest waste? E-mail. This waste costs an estimated $19 billion in New Zealand alone.
When Vulnerability is Good
The point of this newsletter is to promote vulnerability. It is a great thing! There is an old saying that you can’t sail a boat without leaving the shore (or something like that). The same goes for living your life and growing your business. You have to set sail and be vulnerable to storms, waves, rain, wind and everything else!
I wish I could say that you won’t get hurt. But you know better. You will. When I announced that I was indeed a candidate for Mayor of Mason City, I truly thought I was going to win. But the God’s of political fortune had another plan for me. But I fought hard. I endured the late night phone calls and crazy e-mails that came through. I thought about dropping out around Christmas. Our house got egged. But through that vulnerability, I was hired to give my first paid speech up in Osage, Iowa.
Go and be vulnerable. Push away from the shore. See the stars. Miss the goal, but leave your mark.
There was a time about eight years ago. I remember it pretty clearly. I was upstairs in the UNI Dome Athletic Media Relations office in the morning. My friend Eric was in marathon mode and I was considering starting to train to do one as well. As I sat there, I thought for a moment that I could do it, but then quickly shot down the idea.
I was a tennis player and had never run more than a mile or two at a time. Running a marathon just wasn’t possible.
Because I knew the decision to actually do this and go after 26.2 miles, I tracked the progress of this journey for everyone to see the ups and downs. Let me tell you, I wanted to quit at times. But I’m glad I didn’t.
I kept going. And here I sit, writing this a week after crossing the finish line of the 2012 San Diego Marathon, tired, sore and unbelievably excited. I truly never thought I would be able to cross that line and when I saw it for the first time as I rounded my final hill, I knew I was home. I knew that all the hard work, the pain, the challenges were worth it.
What did I learn in becoming a marathoner?
It’s simple. Dreams are hard. And anything worth doing is a challenge. And you have to put one foot in front of the other. And you have to take the uphills with the downhills. And you have to embrace the unexpected. And you have to breath. And you have to enjoy the moment.
So, now it is your turn. Go get your dream.
Selected Life Lesson
Do it now. You may never have another chance.
-Rob P’s Life Lesson from Arlington Heights, Illinois
I DID IT! I put the goal out there and then went and did it. It was not easy, but four days ago, I ventured out with the sun in beautiful San Diego to tackle 26.2 miles; a marathon.
I really never thought I would be able to say it, but I, Richard Dedor, am a marathoner. It’s like when someone because a Super Bowl champion, or wins an Olympic gold medal, that title and the honor bestowed because of that achievement goes with them wherever they go.
And the same goes for any dream you chase. Be true to who you are and you can’t go wrong. I am a “dream chaser” and I ran this one down. My body tells me to never do that again, and so I wear my medal with pride, knowing that I did it. What do you need to go do?
In this world, no matter your culture, your language, your faith, your career and anything else that is a part of your life, I argue there are a few commonalities between all humans. We all love. We all want to be loved. But we are all also battling something.
For some people, it is love they are battling. Perhaps they are in a tough relationship or just lost one. Perhaps they want a relationship.
For other people, it is a career they are battling or perhaps mourning the loss of a job.
For still some others, it can be family, pets, finances, friends, an injury or countless other battles.
Blackbird Can Write says, “…I realize we are all fighting a battle i one way or another.” And it’s true.
So what does this mean for you?
Be sensitive. Be kind. Be compassionate. Hug. Love. Smile. That’s what you can do to each person that you come across. Remember, they are fighting a battle too.
*This is the final post in a five-post series on my quest to complete the Rock ‘n Roll San Diego Marathon on June 3, 2012.
Everyone says it is about the journey. That it is the steps along the way that matter. And as I get set to embark on this incredibly daunting and insane journey, I think that it is only partially correct. I think the destination matters too. If it didn’t, why else would people strive to cross a finish line and get a medal slipped around their necks. Why else would Eli Manning come back and try to win another Super Bowl? The journey is absolutely incredible and we remember the paths we took, but the destination matters too.
My journey to San Diego has been a bit checkered to say the least.
- Dealing with recurring IT Band Syndrome Issues
- I let things in my life in February terribly disrupt my training, and as such I lost nearly 10 pounds
- Running through a snow storm
- I incurred two separate foot injuries
- And enduring multiple leg cramps (mostly while sleeping) for the first time in my life
But that is the journey I took. And it is what will fuel me when I wake up at three in the morning on Sunday to eat, drink coffee, wake up and get into the zone. It is what will give me the boost at mile 20 when every muscle and bone and every fiber of my being will want to quit. It is remembering the pain and sacrifice that I have gone through.
And when I cross that finish line, I will remember every person who has encouraged me along the way. It’s about my best friend and brother who is running it with me. It is about his wonderful fiancé. It is his family. It is about my family and my parents who are flying all the way from Iowa to experience it with me. It is Nathanael. It is my friends at VaynerMedia. It is my friends back at the USTA. It is Jason and David and Eric and Todd and Steph and Marcus and each of you who has encouraged me on this journey.
It will be the journey and you will all be with me at the destination.
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Selected Life Lesson
Life is too short. Embrace the ones close to you. Play hard and make the most out of it.
-Kendra O’s Life Lesson from Cedar Rapids, Iowa
There are two lessons on this weekly Life Lesson. First is to embrace the ones close to you. I have written about love a lot and even made a video about it. The lesson I really want to talk about this week is the second part: making the most out of life.
When I wrote Anything is Possible, the longest race I had ever run was a four-mile charity run. I had not run my half-marathon and I had certainly barely even considered running a full marathon. But here I am, three days away from lacing up for the longest run of my life: 26.2 miles.
Tomorrow, I am on my way to San Diego. It is going to be painful and long. It will be challenging but also gratifying. I am sure I will hurt for days, even weeks afterwards, but with my family there (and my best friend) I will not only be embracing those I love, but also making the most out of life.
I was not born a runner. When it comes to athletics, I’m not quite sure what I was born, but I started as a baseball player and transformed into a pretty decent tennis player. After my back injury, I had to find something new. I picked running. And so I ran, and ran, and ran some more. All told, I’m a bit of 1,000 miles and that is just the runs I have tracked. The first year of running I didn’t use a tracking system.
When I first started running, it was quite the struggle. I couldn’t run very far even though it felt like I was running far.
As I began my final semester of college in the fall of 2005, I had been working out pretty regularly for nine months and I decided that my goal for the semester would be to be able to run five miles straight through before I graduated. It was a very slow process.
Remember how hard it was to run the mile in middle and high school? It was brutal. Four laps around that track! Are you kidding me?
But at my school’s indoor track at the recreation center, five miles required 45 laps.That is a lot of circles to nowhere.
The start of chasing the goal was simply figuring out what I actually wanted. Then it was about making it happen. That required me to run and run and run. A little bit more each and every week. It’s the same way I trained for my half-marathon and the full marathon I am tackling next weekend.
It is the same thing for anything you decide you want to do.
You figure out what you want,
make a plan and execute against it.
I found thi video on my friend, Mike Handy’s blog today while I was catching up on my reading and I just had to share it with you. Talk about innovative and changing the conversation and making something mundane seem fun again. Think about your industry, your company, or your life: What can you make fun again?