Two weeks ago after a long day, I came home to relax. It was the night of my weekly date and I put together a relaxing meal and told my special someone to pick a movie. I didn’t want anything emotional or that I had to really pay attention to. I just wanted to shut off my brain.
Well, that didn’t happen. He picked, “The Help.” If you have seen the movie, then you will know what I’m talking about. If not, don’t worry as I will not give away the story.
I laughed. I cried. I got angry. All in the same movie. From a creator standpoint, the movie was incredible. From a message standpoint, it was also incredible. Why? I’ll tell you why.
One of the characters, incidentally, the main one is fighting many battles. Some of them against her family. Some of them against her community. Some of them against history. And the rest against herself.
She fights the entire movie to find out who she really is meant to be and the audience goes with her on the journey. Then she works with the other characters in the movie to help them find their own strength.
As I watched, I was reminded of my own journey to be me. Whether it is coming out, becoming a speaker and a writer, or just living my life, we all go on this journey to becoming ourselves.
I don’t like to quit. In fact, I hate it. And I don’t usually do it. Sure, I have no problem (after hours and days of fighting), admitting defeat. I remember one time after I had just started working out where I tried to take on too much weight on the bench press. I brought it down to my chest but couldn’t bring it back up. In defeat, I stormed off and my friends let me go. I was angry.
And I wanted to go home. But something stopped me. As I sat stretching my legs a few yards from the beach press that had tried to beat me, I remembered that I don’t defeat myself.
I stood up, angry at myself for letting the bar and the weight beat me. So, I went back. And I did it. Just once. But I did it. And in that moment, I chose to not quit. And you shouldn’t either.
No matter where you are in life or where you have been, you have the unique ability to change. Human beings have a trait – a human trait – called reason. We can think through our decisions and move forward.
In the movie, there is a mother who has a choice to make. In the heat of the moment, she falls victim to her past as well as the present societal norm; even though in her heart she knew the truth and the right action.
And that for me what the message of The Help. It’s about change. It’s about seeing an opportunity to make change and be change and never quit living for something.